tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post4609983648962821984..comments2024-03-19T09:03:49.770+05:30Comments on Shobhaa De: Baby Afreen's tragic death....Shobhaa Dehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05610708004901279105noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-34607937259471977452012-04-29T13:11:41.319+05:302012-04-29T13:11:41.319+05:30Thank you, ms de. Agree with all your thoughts on ...Thank you, ms de. Agree with all your thoughts on this. <br /><br />Concerted action is required on all fronts to bring, as you say, a change in our minds and hearts. <br /><br />I think the most important action would be for girls - at least urban girls and well-off women who have the option - to show, in action that they, too will care for their elderly parents. <br /><br />Ultimately, people in our societies want boys because they think that is where their security and comfort lies. Girls are sometimes seen as a burden to marry off, but also sometimes as a bonus to love and enjoy, but a luxury!! Because there is no return, economically or practically in terms of care in later years. <br /><br /> If women are able to assume full responsibility for caring for their parents, I'm pretty hopeful the boy-worship will die down. <br /><br />Those of us women who can, MUST set a visible trend - spend money on OUR parents, spend time, bring them to our homes permanently to take care of in old age....this already happens, don't we all know so many families where the girls are taking care of their parents - but we need to make a noise about it; celebrate it. Celebrate those daughters and sons-in-law who treat her parents as THEIRS, as much as his. <br /><br />Another thing we need to do is celebrate those families who have only 1 or 2 daughters and do not keep "trying" for sons!! may their tribe increase.annammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08661262125943577598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-8456202464153147852012-04-23T14:44:07.065+05:302012-04-23T14:44:07.065+05:30Baby Afreen's death has been a shocker, thanks...Baby Afreen's death has been a shocker, thanks to her mother who made her death so public. It requires a huge shift in the mindset of the Indian mind to be able to accept, let alone respect, the girl child. This is an incident I came across in my own city, and I thought Kerala had the highest literacy rates and a favorable sex ratio. <br /><br />http://thecannydodger.blogspot.in/2011/07/girl-child.htmlShrutihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680647989843705246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-65578415872697596862012-04-19T22:58:45.915+05:302012-04-19T22:58:45.915+05:30I won't dignify people who abandon baby girls ...I won't dignify people who abandon baby girls by asking them why they do it. That is just crediting them with brain power that would be needed to formulate an answer to that. <br /><br />So instead, just one easy question to those humans abandoning baby girls....I use the term 'humans' loosely by the way.<br /><br />IS THERE A SHORTAGE OF BASKETS OR TEMPLES, MOSQUES, OR CHURCHES IN YOUR COUNTRY? WHY LEAVE THE GIRL IN A GARBAGE BIN OR RAILWAY TRACK OR SEWER LINE ??? <br /><br />And to all the thinking people out there in India. There is a lot of awareness and a lot of hoardings counting down the tiger population. I have nothing against tigers, and wish them well. But I won't be surprised if one day you will be counting down the girl chlid numbers at the rate you lot are going. Wake up and smell the damned coffee!<br /><br />Ash- A very privileged mother of 1 child - A girl child<br />www.keeptalkingmum.blogspot.comAshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14512507468691272508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-17964758555467254722012-04-19T18:18:51.749+05:302012-04-19T18:18:51.749+05:30Very good article...I wish that every person who i...Very good article...I wish that every person who is obsessed to produce boy child should read this blog and should try to change their attitude....sridharanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15588120930264541700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-19816608769192654412012-04-17T14:16:04.667+05:302012-04-17T14:16:04.667+05:30A Girl:
The tree has entered my hands,
The sap ha...A Girl:<br />The tree has entered my hands, <br />The sap has ascended my arms, <br />The tree has grown in my breast- <br />Downward, <br />The branches grow out of me, like arms. <br /><br />Tree you are, <br />Moss you are, <br />You are violets with wind above them. <br />A child - so high - you are, <br />And all this is folly to the world.Nyxsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864806281122568476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-30631509624137444482012-04-16T18:51:44.960+05:302012-04-16T18:51:44.960+05:30Mrs. De, I liked your article. I too felt very sa...Mrs. De, I liked your article. I too felt very sad after reading about Baby Afreen in the news. Our country surely worships men and only men. We live in a male dominated society. I don't even know how many times I have shown anger towards this issue and how many articles I have written. This problem can never be solved, one may fight until the last breath but this can never be stopped.Divya (Virmani) Chaddahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05728297995713109412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-791792434117575212012-04-16T18:48:08.560+05:302012-04-16T18:48:08.560+05:30Downtown abbey is a delightful confection. Loved ...Downtown abbey is a delightful confection. Loved it! Mr Bates and his annoyingly earnest and loyal girlfriend made me want to smack them upside the head. The dashing chauffeur dashes here and there in the car right through season 1 and 2 and finally dashes against the class structure in a most satisfying way. My most favorite character was Maggie Smith (the matriarch). I had a similar grandma who was just as delightfully witty.<br /><br />Baby Afreen... what is there to say? Really what is there to say, without education and a living wage being the norm for EVERYONE who lives in the country. A societal sea change cannot happen without these.Another Kiran In NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15949641865013106368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-25011087480375395512012-04-16T11:29:02.058+05:302012-04-16T11:29:02.058+05:30Just realized it was all my iPhone fault for press...Just realized it was all my iPhone fault for pressing left space that took me to this article. Btw it's so sad about baby Afreen. I bet his dad thought now he have to pay all the dowry instead of him demanding it as much as he had dreamed if she was born male. Weird kind of people in this world & jail should be their final destination,,,same goes to remember that one struggler tv star that was two timming with two men at same time & chopped off one<br />of them with her husband. How can anybody be so cold hearted & lack of compassionate???? Didn't they once, for god sake once thought "bechara" before attempting & practicing such a evil act? All just for greed of fame, money & sex, yuck! How pity. Their life must be so boring, dull, & meaningless without making it "LARGE" huh. I pity such a people. Deeply blindfolded. For them, an act of selflessness & compassionate must be the most idiotic thing anybody would do. DANGEROUS!Tsomo85https://www.blogger.com/profile/14210544871260847675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-80877766484378011682012-04-16T10:54:07.297+05:302012-04-16T10:54:07.297+05:30Wait, error here. I comment on wrong space.Wait, error here. I comment on wrong space.Tsomo85https://www.blogger.com/profile/14210544871260847675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-71571096227437505562012-04-16T10:49:47.407+05:302012-04-16T10:49:47.407+05:30The mindset needs to be changed...if would be in-l...The mindset needs to be changed...if would be in-laws do not demand money(read DOWRY) and treat DILs with respect, if parents of a daughter-in-law are not given inferior treatment, if married daughters too get a chance to look after their old parents ,if only the bread winner(mostly male) is not considered important but the housewife who makes a home worth living is also given equal importance only then people will not regret giving birth to a girl child. Couples having boys need to take a vow to behave modestly and stop considering themselves something unique only because some x and y chromosomes played their part. producing a baby boy is not an achievement but nurturing one to be a responsible citizen surely is.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04183893462470476859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-34808514885744986272012-04-16T10:48:14.491+05:302012-04-16T10:48:14.491+05:30"Saaayad meri sadhi ka khayal dil may aya hai..."Saaayad meri sadhi ka khayal dil may aya hai; isiliyai mummy nay meri tumhai chai par bolaya hai." <br /><br />If anybody doesn't know this song, film, & Tina Munim then they certainly DON'T KNOW anything about bollywood & are definitely not late 80s baby! <br /><br />Oh and how can we forget her lavishing boat wedding. Apart from her fame, she seem to be relaxed & super active women, and ofcourse more importantly complete down to earth & blessed. More power to her. She certainly was the best dressed & stylish actress in the 80s compare to the ones who can always be seen on dull salwar kamiz or saree. :-) I'm going to sent this to my sister, she'll love it. <br /><br />PS. Anil is such a comfy husband. Amazing time & notes from him at Oscar. Wonderful. And oh ya! My personal fav from this interview is how she mentioned her & Anil is in equal power of each other. Awesome! And the way how she departed her guest,,,,,,so strange that it's something we do regularly. Every Sunday my mom likes to held puja at home & invites all her friends to join in & they socialize & dine together post puja & farewell them with gifts of china sets & etc. Hahaha can so relate this humble & noble gesture.Tsomo85https://www.blogger.com/profile/14210544871260847675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-33785577272358823982012-04-16T10:38:55.092+05:302012-04-16T10:38:55.092+05:30This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04183893462470476859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-53715561208239942892012-04-15T23:29:14.206+05:302012-04-15T23:29:14.206+05:30What can one expect from such a cruel mind set.
We...What can one expect from such a cruel mind set.<br />We must look into our innermost selves and not get comfortable with our Country shining....<br />This killing of a girl child is the most disgusting (I am at a loss for words)and degrading blot on our culture.<br />Surely this will be our downfall sooner than...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452007250221117551.post-55660348338073008242012-04-15T23:20:01.244+05:302012-04-15T23:20:01.244+05:30ahh Shobha Ji, I wish each one heard your voice so...ahh Shobha Ji, I wish each one heard your voice so the girl child;s agony would end in India. But this so happens in fairy tales-...and they lived happily ever after...Sushma Harishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10290498945212081522noreply@blogger.com